Regardless of the setting, either social or professional, truly understanding how to read a room can help you tremendously in life. This will help you hone presentation and soft selling skills, adjust your approach during negotiations for a new contract or even divert you from going down the wrong path in a conversation. Reading a room is such a simple concept; you observe behaviors and interactions with the intent to collect subtle, nonverbal cues from a group of people. It’s less about being present, and more about being perceptive, empathetic, and attuned to the behaviors of human interaction. 

Those who do it well effortlessly adjust direction and change the outcome in any setting. They grant themselves the ability to make better, more informed decisions, communicate clearly and strengthen relationships. With a majority of the world operating under a hybrid business model, reading a room has never been more important – especially when that room is a virtual one. 

Let’s break down five simple ways to read a room:

  1. Look around and take in the scenery: What’s the overall vibe in the room? Is it tense, relaxed, energetic, or serious? Are attendees participating in pre-meeting chatter, or are they joining and waiting quietly for the meeting to begin? Atmosphere can set the tone for productive discussions or indicate underlying tensions that need to be uncovered or addressed. If it feels too tense or serious, pay close attention to nonverbal cues as discussions commence and advance. An attendee’s lack of participation in non work-related prompts can be a signal that it’s time to kick off the discussion and stay focused on the agenda. 
  1. Focus on nonverbal cues: Pay close attention to all body language, facial expressions, reactions and attentiveness throughout. If a participant is crossing their arms and leaning back in their chair, this behavior could indicate a level of defensiveness or misalignment on that topic. And the opposite can be true for those who lean into the conversation as a way to show their interest and engagement. Taking long pauses before speaking or responding hesitantly might also indicate that the individual isn’t fully engaged in your conversation. Once noticed, ask a few more questions or seek direct feedback before determining how best to advance the conversation further.
  1. Listen past spoken words: Go beyond spoken words and focus on a participant’s vocal tone, the pitch of their voice and any inflection you can detect. Most of us  communicate with an emotional undertone when speaking. Recognizing tone helps our brain determine the sentiment coming from the individual and allows our own empathy to kick in. Do they seem like there’s more they want to share? Lean into that sense and consider asking some open-ended questions that encourage a more dialogue on that topic, especially when  picking up on any frustration or negative undertones. Always be sure to thoroughly listen to responses to these probing questions in order to absorb and adjust to any new direction the conversation needs to head in. 
  1. Know who’s in charge: At the top of the meeting, quickly assess those in the room to understand any hierarchy and power dynamics. Do you already know who the decision maker is? Do you know which attendees are influencers to the decision-makers? Understanding who holds the most authority and who might sway opinions can guide your approach in the room and identify opportunities to have the influencer support your recommendations or considerations. If the key decision maker is unsure of their position, try leaning into the influencers and asking directly for their feedback can often uncover reasons for reluctance. Knowing who to turn to  allows you to tailor your messaging to align with the decision maker’s priorities and preferences and to help advance ideas and the flow of any conversation. 
  1. Ask open-ended questions: Know when it’s appropriate to ask additional open-ended questions that encourage participants to share their feedback, directly and on the spot. For example, asking "What are your initial thoughts on this recommendation?” can elicit more valuable insights compared to a simple “Do you agree with this recommendation?” yes-or-no question. Try soliciting feedback directly from each participant in the reverse order of the room’s  hierarchy. Doing so can reveal more tactical and lesser-known day-to-day business challenges that the decision maker may not have considered when they gave feedback initially. Seeking any additional feedback from all participants- versus just the decision maker- can ladder up and better support the outcome. 

Now you have the knowledge. Go and put your skills to the test. You might be surprised with what you find!